Last year the writing was on the wall that the school I teach in was not the right match for my own children. Unfortunately the way it was handled left a lot of hard feelings I am still working through. However that is not what this post is about. My children ended up going to a local public school, and they both expressed interest in joining scout groups. In my daughter’s case it was because a parent of one of my daughter’s classmates, who also left my school last year, wanted to start a troop in part so that some of the girls who had become friends during the 5 years they were at the school could remain connected to each other. In my son’s case, he is having difficulty making friends at his new school, or so he feels, and one of the kids he has connected with is joining the cub scout troop at the school.
In both cases, given the social ramifications that our children were dealing with after pulling them from a school they fully expected to spend 13 years in, we had to seriously consider it. My wife and I were both very reluctant because of the stories a few years ago regarding scouting (boy scouts primarily) and the high profile situations with regard to religion and homosexuality. Being a family with a buddhist father and a pagan mother, our children have an odd background in religion to begin with, and we did not want them to have to deal with problems related to this. Secondly, my daughter’s birthmother (we adopted her from my wife’s sister) is a lesbian, which we have absolutely no problem with, and we certainly do not want negative or derogatory comments made about homosexuals in front of our children.
So when the situation arose that they both wanted to join troops, my wife and I had to have a long talk about whether or not we were comfortable with that. The cub scout promise,
I, (name), promise to do my best
To do my duty to God and my country,
To help other people, and
To obey the Law of the Pack.
is okay except for the part about God. I was mollified as I read further that they at least allow for any higher power and not necessarily a christian god. In fact, it was interesting to read that there were even buddhist sponsored troops. Of course, the buddha-nature that my teacher talks about is not really what I think of when people mention a “higher-power” but I can reconcile it as thinking of it as something bigger than ourself. Of course I thought that their reasoning here was interesting:
Q. Why is duty to God important to Scouting?
A. Since its founding in the United States in 1910, the Boy Scouts of America has had an ongoing commitment to encouraging moral, ethical and spiritual growth. The Boy Scouts of America believes that the principles set forth in the Scout Oath and Law are central to Boy Scouts’ goals.
Sounds like they are of the mind that one cannot be moral or ethical without belief in a higher power. I definitely do not agree with this. Fortunately the person actually running the troop at my son’s school made it very clear that any religious aspects of the program were meant for home, family, or church and would not be addressed at any meetings.
The girl scouts promise is very similar:
On my honor, I will try:
To serve God* and my country,
To help people at all times,
And to live by the Girl Scout Law.
In fact, notice the asterick after “God.” This is what they say about using the word:
* The word “God” can be interpreted in a number of ways, depending on one’s spiritual beliefs. When reciting the Girl Scout Promise, it is okay to replace the word “God” with whatever word your spiritual beliefs dictate.
Overall, this made us feel much better about letting our children participate. Of course there is still the issue of homosexuality. First of all, I want it to be clear that I am not advocating that any organization for children promotes homosexuality… or heterosexuality for that matter. But at the same time, I do not want negative statements made about homosexuals. We do not feel that they are evil or immoral, and we absolutely reject anything that would voice this. Which puts us in a bit of a bind with the cub scouts.
While the girl scouts have apparently taken a neutral stance on homosexuality – neither promoting it nor decrying it – they have stated clearly that all girls are eligible for membership and no discrimination is allowed. However the boy scouts are not so enlightened. In fact, I anticipate that if my son continues in the scouts, at some point we will run into a problem. In my mind a group that specifically excludes others based on, honestly, close-minded religious principles is not appropriate for our family. In fact, they say here:
Q. Is Boy Scouts implying that homosexuals do not have good moral or emotional character? What about other types of sexual immorality?
A. Boy Scouts regards homosexual conduct as not morally straight as required in the Scout Oath. Morally straight is a broad term which includes all types of moral behavior. There are many persons who may be unsuitable role models of the Oath and Law for adolescent boys.
Morally straight? In my mind and philosophy any person or group who discriminates against homosexuals is not morally straight. And yes, it is discrimination. They actually say in response to a question about whether their policy is discriminatory that to say so is just name-calling. They hide behind the idea that these are traditional values and, as such, should not be called discriminatory. I hate to break it to them, but when your rules say that certain individuals are unfit to be leaders or members of your group, then you are being discriminatory. That is what the word means. You can call it whatever you like, but that does not change the reality.
So, in the end, my wife and are allowing our children to join, our son somewhat more reluctantly than our daughter, if for no other reason than to give them some additional social outlets since they are dealing with leaving my school. My son, to this point, has not always wanted to continue in things so I can only hope that once, if ever, the discriminatory nature of the boy scouts becomes an issue he will be long gone. If not, well, we’ll see.
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